A suggestion for a format for a forgiveness letter. This is not intended for sending to the person. It is for completing past hurts and resentments so you can forgive the person.

Dear ..................

I am writing this letter with the intention to let go any resentments, recrimination, hurt, vindictiveness and

As an outcome a willingness to forgive you for having hurt me intentionally or unintentionally.

I need to let go the resentment first so to forgive.

................... I resent you for being ....................................................................................

because I felt ........................................................................................

I realize this has been a pattern of mine

I resent you for being ................................................................................

because I felt .............................................................................................

I resent you for being ................................................................................

because I felt ...........................................................................

I realize this has been a pattern of mine

I resent you for ...........................................................................................................

because I felt ...........................................................................

I realize this has been a pattern of mine

 

Keep writing any resentments, hurts, upsets etc until you feel flat. Go into the blame and rage until you no longer feel hurt. It may take several pages.

Warning - when going through the resentments, you may feel hurt or angry, Don't take it out on anybody. You can hit a punching bag or a cushion or something instead.

Now what I can really tell you is I appreciate you for ........................................................................

and I am grateful for .........................................

What I can really tell you is I appreciate you for ........................................................................

and I am grateful for .........................................

Most of all what I really mean underneath all this is I really love you.

I ask for your forgiveness for ...............................................................

I forgive you and I set you free and I ask you to set me free

 

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